{"id":1813,"date":"2021-09-01T10:00:00","date_gmt":"2021-09-01T04:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/new.iimun.in\/blog\/?p=1813"},"modified":"2021-09-01T12:26:21","modified_gmt":"2021-09-01T06:56:21","slug":"im-a-feminist-and-im-afraid-of-men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/iimun.in\/blog\/others\/im-a-feminist-and-im-afraid-of-men\/","title":{"rendered":"I\u2019m a Feminist and I\u2019m afraid of men"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

My feminism is deep and sad, and maybe you\u2019d define them as\u2026 pessimistic. <\/em>They don\u2019t think changes will happen in a day so, as much as they dream <\/em>that they don\u2019t have to share their location with their parents when they take a rickshaw or can wear whatever they want, because catcalls aren\u2019t their fault, they can\u2019t. My feminism looks at reality and unfortunately, her reality is men on the streets who look at their cellulite thighs, secretly eye-raping her, wondering what\u2019s inside. Her reality is sharing her location when she goes to meet a friend and saying I love you <\/em>because you never know what might happen when that I love you could mean an end.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My feminism is fearful but pretends like they\u2019re bold because they are told that scared women cannot hold a seat on the table. My feminism doesn\u2019t think about kids, marriage, or growing up: they\u2019re just concerned with their career, but they know that no one cares. My feminism knows about my teachers who gave up their careers and dreams to get married, so to her: marriage is not a union, it is one of the oldest forms of seclusion one would know. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m a feminist and I\u2019m afraid of men.<\/em> This is not just my feminism. This is the feminism of so many women I know.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every time women go somewhere, you see, they have pepper spray or keys or at least their fingers on the keypad, ready to call someone for help when needed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, across the world, \u2018I have a boyfriend is the phrase that women use to ward off predatory men rather than directly letting them know that they aren\u2019t attracted to them. Why is that? Pacifying men has become exceedingly popular because women cannot afford to make men angry. Ever. Being scared for their lives, they have learned that many men will take a step back when they realize that another woman is \u2018spoken for\u2019 because men value and respect men ten times more than they respect women. In India, over 4 lakh cases were reported in 2019, with less than a 30% prosecution rate. So many more cases occur, going unreported. This is to say that there are about 88 reported cases each day, <\/em>so yes, every single girl and woman is afraid to be a part of that number. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Feminists can be afraid of men. Feminists can be women and non-binary individuals and be afraid of men. Hey, even men can be afraid of men. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you think about it, many renowned feminists who are women have been victims of death threats, assault, rape threats, and much more. Why is speaking out about women\u2019s rights something that a large majority of men are against? Aren\u2019t women and their rights equally as important to protect? When you think about it, you\u2019ll find that even \u2018powerful and bold women\u2019 are scared of men, not threatened by them, mind you, but scared that they\u2019ll take advantage of them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, queer feminists are often excluded from the gender and feminist narrative, leaving them even more vulnerable to the fear of sexual harassment, violence, and gendered abuse. Men can be scared of men, but often it\u2019s not for the fear of assault or sexual violence but rather crimes like brutal violence, murder, forced work, etc. As you can understand, women and non-binary individuals are often more worried about violence against them because almost always, rape or some sort of sexual objectification is what happens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, can you be a feminist and be afraid of men? My feminism says yes. She\u2019s bold when she wants to be but they also know that centuries of oppression won\u2019t disappear in a day- so listen to what she says: be loud and proud but be cautious. You are not a victim. You are a survivor.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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